I am in the process of adopting a basided. Perhaps it is because we are planning an open adoption, but I found the responses to some of the questions to be quite negative and didn't see how that answer would help anybody, especially a child. The author refers to the adoptees as being "abandoned" "unloved" and "unwanted" on multiple occassions. At one point a child is asking why he was abandoned and the author's response is that is difficult to feel unloved and unwanted. I just didn't feel like that is something I would say to a 9 year old child.